Gabrielle Union says her soul was ‘shattered’ when she learned now-husband Dwyane Wade got another woman pregnant while Union was going through IVF treatments to try and struggling to conceive.
The actress, 48, shares a raw account of the betrayal in her new book You Got Something Stronger, which Time published an excerpt of on Friday.
In the piece, Gabrielle explains: ‘The experience of Dwyane having a baby so easily—while I was unable to—left my soul not just broken into pieces, but shattered into fine dust scattering in the wind.’
Union and Wade would go on to welcome daughter Kaavia via surrogate in 2018.
Devastated: Gabrielle Union says her soul was ‘shattered’ when she learned now-husband Dwyane Wade got another woman pregnant while Union was going through IVF treatments to try and conceive. She’s seen in February 2020 above
The piece began: ‘In 2013, before we were married, Dwyane had a baby with another woman. It should go without saying that we were not in a good place at the time that child was conceived.’
Gabi and Dwyane began dating in 2008 but according to the athlete’s own 2020 documentary, the pair were on a break when he and ‘longtime friend’ Aja Metoyer concieved Xavier, now seven.
At the time, Wade was already dad to Zaire, 18 and Zaya, 12, and was legal guardian to his nephew, Dahveon, 18.
Though the couple was ‘doing much better’ when he revealed his secret to her, she was heartbroken.
‘To say I was devastated is to pick a word on a low shelf for convenience,’ The actress explained. ‘There are people—strangers I will never meet—who have been upset that I have not previously talked about that trauma. I have not had words, and even after untold amounts of therapy I am not sure I have them now.’
Gabi was particularly hurt given how hard she was trying to have a baby with Dwyane.
‘The experience of Dwyane having a baby so easily—while I was unable to—left my soul not just broken into pieces, but shattered into fine dust scattering in the wind,’ she wrote.
Soul-crushing: In the piece, Gabrielle explains: ‘The experience of Dwyane having a baby so easily—while I was unable to—left my soul not just broken into pieces, but shattered into fine dust scattering in the wind.’ He’s seen in February 2020 above
Father: Wade and Union now have daughter Kaavia, two. They also help raise his nephew Dahvon (center left), as well as his son Zaire (far right) and daughter Zaya (center right) from his first marriage. Xavier is seen under half-brother Zaire
‘We gathered what we could to slowly remake me into something new. There was no way to disguise where I’d been glued back together.’
Though the pair were ready to pick up the pieces, Union admitted that her ‘feelings weren’t originating from a healthy place,’ largely because of her own struggles getting pregnant.
‘So much of what made the decision so difficult was that if I didn’t submit to a surrogacy, then I was convinced I needed to let Dwyane go,’ she confessed. ‘Even if he didn’t want to, I had to let him find someone who could give him what he wanted.’
After some reflection, Union began to research surrogacy options.
She and Wade married in 2014 and would welcome daughter Kaavia four years later.
Dwyane previously admitted that telling Gabrielle about Xavier was the ‘hardest thing’ he’s ‘ever had to do.’
‘I had a child with someone else and I had to tell her. Hardest thing I’ve ever had to do is man up and tell Gabrielle Union that I’ve had a child with somebody else,’ he said in his documentary D. Wade: Life Unexpected. ‘I couldn’t sleep. I wasn’t eating.’
Modern family: Over the years Union has grown close to Wade’s older kids and shares memories of their family on her social media now and then
‘When you hold something in that you know is going to come out and you have this information and you know it’s gonna f**k somebody’s life up, that you care about, that you love, if it don’t hurt you, then you’re not human,’ Wade continued. ‘… Me and Gab just went through something that you never want to go through and we still came out of it.’
Over the years Union has grown close to Wade’s older kids and shares memories of their modern family on her social media now and then.
While Zaire and Zaya often make appearances, Xavier’s presence appears to be more private.
Union has been a great support to Dwyane’s daughter Zaya, who came out as a transgender girl in February of 2020.
Gabi reintroduced her daughter to the world early last year, sharing an Instagram post that said: ‘Meet Zaya. She’s compassionate, loving, whip smart and we are so proud of her. It’s Ok to listen to, love & respect your children exactly as they are. Love and light good people.’
Wade also spoke about raising a transgender child in 2020, telling Ellen DeGeneres: ‘We are proud parents of a child in the LGBTQ+ community and we’re proud allies as well.’
Support system: Union has been a great support to Dwyane’s daughter Zaya, who came out as a transgender girl in February of 2020
- Gabrielle Union on Her Experience With Surrogacy | Time
- Dwyane Wade Recalls Telling Gabrielle Union About Child He Fathered With Someone Else | Entertainment Tonight