Inside Alan Carr and Paul Drayton’s rocky relationship from rehab to brain surgery

Inside Alan Carr and Paul Drayton’s rocky relationship from rehab to brain surgery (Image: PA)

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Alan Carr has revealed that he and his husband Paul Drayton have decided to split after 13 years together.

A spokesperson for the talk show host announced they made the decision "jointly and amicably".

The pair tied the knot in Los Angeles in 2018, with a spokesperson for Alan saying at the time: "Alan Carr married his long-term partner Paul Drayton at a small private ceremony in LA last week.

"The couple are currently on honeymoon in Mexico and are planning a big celebration with all their family and friends back in the UK later this summer. They are both extremely happy."

The duo had been through a lot over the years, from alcohol addiction and rehab to life-saving brain surgery.

Alan and Paul have opened up about many of the struggles they went through, here are a few…


Alan and Paul were together for 13 years
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He posted a picture of his black eye and later said he punched himself in the face during a bender
(Image: Paul Drayton/Instagram)

Paul Drayton has long suffered from alcoholism and had Alan by his side helping him through it.

There were many moments where Paul went without drinking, with him previously revealing that he once went 650 days without drinking.

After achieving the momentous feat, Paul said: "650 DAYS!!! It's at times like these we all like to have a drink! Believe me I'm really tempted to have a few.

"Even if it's Just to alleviate the bloody boredom! I wake up the next day so grateful I didn't. Try and give yourself 2-3 dry days in these pressing times!"

He didn't drink until he lapsed over the summer in 2021 – as the lockdown made things harder for him – with Alan opening up about the difficult time.

Paul even posted a picture of himself with a black eye in August and he later clarified that he punched himself in the face during a bender.

A few months later, Alan revealed that he also stopped drinking in solidarity with his former husband.

Drink-driving Incident

He was apparently driving four times over the limit
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In November of last year, Paul plead guilty to a drink-driving charge.

At Brighton Magistrates Court, a judge warned him that he was facing jail and said it was a 'miracle' no one was killed when he was driving.

The court heard he was four times over the legal drink-drive limit.

He was accused of drink-driving after he reversed into a police car, and almost hit a mother pushing a pram.

Paul was only three miles from the home he shared with Alan in West Sussex. Paul's case has been adjourned for sentencing.

Brain Surgery

Paul revealed last year that he needed an operation
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The issue came to light when Paul fell off a horse
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In December last year, it was revealed that Paul was undergoing a life-saving operation and needed to have holes drilled into his skull.

The 50-year-old took to Instagram to share the news with his followers and revealed the details of the emergency surgery.

"I have a chronic subdural hematoma. They have to drill two small holes to drain it. Hopefully in the next few days," he wrote on social media, according to the Daily Star.

"I won’t be on here for a while but will read all your messages as it gives me comfort and peace' before thanking his followers for their 'messages and love."

The issue was discovered when he booked an appointment with his doctor after he fell off a horse and felt like something wasn't feeling 'right'.

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At one point, Alan was away at work a lot
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Paul went to rehab in 2015 and 2018
(Image: Dave J Hogan/Getty Images for the National Osteoporosis Society)

In Alan's book, Alanatomy, he discussed how Paul started drinking a lot more when he injured his back in 2015 and when Alan was busy with work.

He wrote: "It’s horrible when you realise how bad it’s got. You’re watching someone kill themselves.

"I wanted to leave him. It’s the lies that get you – the, “Oh I’ll never drink again”. And then you go out, realise you’ve forgotten your car keys, go back and…[Paul would be drinking.]

"I couldn’t cope, because when I left the house, I didn’t know if he was going to have a fall, or put something on the hob and fall asleep. He was grey and shuffling around. It was like watching someone die."

Alan previously appeared on Loose Women where he said that Paul went to rehab 'a couple of times'. Paul went to rehab in 2015 and then checked himself in again three years later.

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